Can We Please Stop Fighting? It’s Time to Call a Mom Truce

I just want to know what happened to supporting other Moms. Prior to 2020, we actually liked each other. We didn’t have to personally know other moms on social media, but we could applaud them and cheer on their right to make decisions for their families. It’s hard enough being a woman in this world without having to worry that the person in line next to you hates your guts for making a different personal decision than she did. I propose a Mom Truce.

2020 was Crap

2020 was a complete waste of time (ok, not for all of us. Some of us had babies, or promotions, or other great things that made up for the constant barrage of bad news that constituted last year). What we can all agree on is that last year was stressful. We all went through this traumatic experience together, while trying to keep our families sane and our marriages from falling apart. It was unfair. It was confusing and stressful. And bottom line, no one knows what the hell they are doing.

Let’s Call a Mom Truce

Let’s call a truce because as Moms, there’s too much on our mental plate to add yet another thing to stress out about. We are all living in this world full of unknowns, mitigating risks that we have never encountered before. No one has all the answers. There are no assurances! But the one thing we all have in common is that we all want what’s best for our families.

We Are All Doing The Best We Can

What is best for my family might not be what is best for yours. Frankly, we would all fare a little better to get off of the Internet and spend time living in the real world. We sit there on our smartphones and computers getting riled up and trying to prove which way is right, or safe, or better, or secure. But there’s no winning! At the end of the day, you only have your life to live. And there’s no one else who’s better at being you than you!

The Mom Truce: For Our Collective Mental Health

Let’s call a truce among Moms. The next time you are scrolling through the Next Door app, or your local Facebook Moms group and you see something you disagree with, keep scrolling. Turn off your phone. Close the app. Hug your child. And the next time you see a Mom who is struggling, stop and support her. It doesn’t matter if you agree with her decisions. We are all humans, raising little humans. It’s hard. Let’s give each other some slack.

We are All Making Impossible Decisions.

We are all making impossible decisions with not enough information. So support other Moms. All of them. Even if you don’t agree with their political beliefs or health choices. Because those things are none of your business. What is your business is the fact that this fellow mother is raising the future of this world. We all want that future better and brighter for our children. Lend a hand to those who are struggling trying to make ends meet. Stop judging and start listening. In this time, more than ever, when we are collectively struggling and isolated and alone, let’s show each other some grace.

Prioritize Self Care

Self-care isn’t going to the store by yourself. It’s not a shower. We all need time to recharge. Let’s take a pledge to prioritize self-care during this Mom Truce. Let’s put our energy into a place where we can really have the mental capacity to give back to ourselves and others. Your mental health matters. If you need help, there are many resources available. You are not alone, we are all in this together. Let’s drop the fighting and focus on supporting each other through these unprecedented times.

Let’s Choose Unity.