Mom on Mom Crime on the Rise. Help Prevent It!

Do you ever find yourself desperately scavenging the internet looking for books or articles to help coach you on how to be a better mom? I can honestly say I have been there on multiple occasions. Usually, after my kids have had a full day of successfully running me into the ground with their shenanigans. But what I’m not looking for is the ever-present mom on mom crime that I see.

In an effort to help lift my spirit on a balmy afternoon, I landed on a group page meant for moms to “support” one another in their parental journey. A group meant to share knowledge and celebrate what it means to be a mom.

Somewhere in the search for rainbows and unicorns, I came across that “obnoxious post”. You know the one; the post where a mom asked for a simple recommendation around something simple, such as a baby carrier, bottle nipple, or diaper brand. Somewhere in the cascade of comments is that one comment from another mom that sparks a typhoon of negativity in the group’s ecosystem. The comment from the mom that feels the need to berate another mom on a whim.

Usually goes a little something like this:

  • You should be using your own nipple instead of a plastic one. The plastic will impair the baby’s ability to speak.
  • Only use a specific baby carrier or else your child will be traumatized forever and will not learn how to walk. #fact
  • Only use a specific diaper brand because if not your child will be tormented to the point that potty training won’t happen until they are in the double digits of age. I mean, if they ever learn.

OK, maybe I took it to the next level but, at times, the comments are THAT ridiculous. If the insanity of the above wasn’t enough, more moms feel compelled to get involved which drives the comment chain into triple digits. I like to call this act Mom on Mom crime. Not sure what the statistics are for this type of crime but if I was to guess, it would be at an all-time high. Probably due to the overwhelming amount of information and the anonymity provided via social media vehicles.

Don’t be a keyboard gangster

Moms behaving like keyboard gangsters is a trend I don’t understand and refuse to be a part of. What happened to the idea that if you don’t have anything nice to say, DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Yes, sometimes it is hard (I struggle with this) but that is why we are adults. We are supposed to be capable of managing hard scenarios and conversations.

We can’t tell our children to be nice to others and then blatantly disrespect our mom peers because they don’t do things the way we would do them. If everyone were the same, it would be a very boring existence. The goal of this post if not to discourage you from joining these types of groups but to encourage responsible behavior. Let us build each other up, not tear each other down. Let us bring mom on mom crimes to an end and stop the internet trolls.

How do you help to eliminate mom on mom crime?

Helen Pastrana was born and raised in Puerto Rico. She completed her undergrad degree at the University of Central Florida in Psychology and received her master’s degree in Human Resource Development from Villanova University. She has been married to her husband Chris for 9 years. They have two very energetic and handsome boys; ages 4 (Noah) and 5 (Christian). They have been living in the Tampa Bay area since 2014 and are always searching for fun places and things to do. Helen is a full-time mommy and full-time employee for a professional services firm. She believes you can have your cake and eat it too; this is why she is a big proponent of work-life balance. Helen is a Gemini and in true Gemini fashion, she has an eclectic array of interests and is open to everything and anything. GAME ON!