I remember when I first had my oldest son. A lot of my friends then did not have kids so it was difficult for me to keep up with them. I had just turned 22 so I wasn’t too big on going out anymore. There were no more late nights at the clubs or spur of the moment outings to nowhere. My husband has always worked a lot so that meant a lot of time is spent with the kids. I am fine with that, but it is always nice to have a few mom friends that understand the ups and downs of parenting, of life in general.
Making mom friends can lead to life long friendships, but it’s not always that easy so I am going to share a few tips with you. Last year, Tampa Bay Moms Blog shared an article about where in Tampa Bay to meet other moms. Here are some ideas about how to go about it.
1. Be open. Be honest. Know what you want and say what you want. Don’t be rude, but be truthful. You don’t want someone to like you just because you agree with whatever they say. In the same sense, you also don’t want to come across as a know it all. Being a mom is tough job, and we all love to share advice, but it can come across as judgmental if another mom isn’t asking for specific help.
2. Bring up things you like. Find some common-ground. Ask questions. Answer honestly. Don’t say you like a movie or love to read because you are trying, that can easily lead to nights in a book club wasted or hours at the theater. Try to stay away from topics that are touchy like breastfeeding, politics, and religions.
3. Dressing appropriately is a must. Even though you are a mom that does not mean you have to leave your fashion sense behind. It also means that you don’t need to flaunt everything, from everywhere. Keep it classy…and comfortable.
4. If your kids are sick or potty training, keep it at home. No one wants to be around sick kids. Potty training can take a while, and it can be stressful for some families. You don’t want to have to deal with that on top of trying to meet new moms.
5. Let your guard down. You can expect to make friends if you are always on the lookout. We sometimes can get so absorbed in dealing with our own kids, we forget to notice others around. Be sure to make eye contact and smile when trying to connect with other moms. Even that “I’ve been there” smile when a child is having a tantrum can lead to a new conversation. You have to let others in and let them see who you are. Just be you and you will find moms you want in your life.