ADHD: Deciding…Should I Medicate My Child?

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I had taken my 6-year-old son to see a neurologist prior to school starting due to him having difficulty completing everyday tasks. It was exhausting to have to ask him to do the same things that we do every morning at least a dozen times. Same routine, different day, but it usually turned into a shouting match. “How does he not know that he needs to…  We do this everyday, why can’t he do… Why can’t he just do this first before…?” The answer was obvious, but I didn’t want to deal with it. The truth is, I’ve known since he was about four years old, but never did I think I would have to have him officially “labeled.” It’s something we as parents joked about and not something we thought would be put on my son’s medical chart.adhd

Just a few days after being in school, my son’s teacher had come to me about concerns in the classroom, mainly having to do with attentiveness, focus, starting and completing tasks, and him not interacting socially as much. I told the teacher that we had just started seeing a neurologist and that we would be having her (as his teacher) complete the screener once she had worked with him for a few weeks. After a few weeks, the screener was completed. I remember opening the envelope just a few hours before my son’s neurology appointment. I looked at the marks and saw the high ratings. In your own head, as a parent, you don’t see the deficits being as significant, but they truly were. It was painful to see the scores, and yet I was trying to justify it some in my head, but the teacher side of me would have given the same marks. I was emotionally torn because this time, he wasn’t one of my students, he was my son.

We walked into the neurologist’s office and he reviewed the many tests that had been completed prior to the appointment. Everything came back within normal limits and so we went on to the screener, and we began talking about different forms of treatment options. After the neurologist gave me a quick tutorial on the medications that were available, we discussed my concerns, we chose a medication, and he wrote the prescription.

ADHD side effects include: Judgment and stigma

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I sat in the car holding the script in my hands. I have to admit, that in the past I had been a little judgmental about people putting their children on medications such as this, and here I was about to do the same thing. After going through everything we did, I see that most parents, just like us, did everything they could. I don’t know what they went through and tried, just like they don’t know what we went through and tried. It really put it all into perspective for me in those few moments before I had the prescription filled. For two years, we changed his diet, we did various forms of therapy, he received early intervention, and it all served its purpose and took him this far. This medication is an additional component to help meet our son’s needs, and I, especially, needed to be okay with that.

RESULTS

My son has been on medication for about a month. After some trial and error, we were able to find the right medication and dosage for him that would help him participate and function best within his learning environment. He is doing well in school and is participating more in the classroom and with his peers. His teacher has continued to be well invested in making sure my son’s needs are met within the classroom, as well as, pushing him to keep moving. She has played an intricate role in partnering with us to help our son.

We have seen huge changes at home, as well. Our son is more focused, attentive, and more compliant when asked to do typical everyday tasks. It was a complete turn around in our home that has been life changing. Yes, life changing. Having to continuously and explicitly direct and prompt your child every single day,  to brush his teeth, put on his clothes, make his bed, and do his homework- can be exasperating. Now, we get to go on about our day without the frustration for him and ourselves.

LESSONS LEARNED

  1. Never get caught up in a label. My son is still the same sweet little boy that walked through that office before he was diagnosed. It didn’t change a single thing about what a kind, funny, innovative thinker he is. Labels do not define; they are there to create an awareness and are given so that your child’s education can be adapted or modified to meet their individual needs. At the end of the day, you ultimately determine your own limits.
  1. ADHD is viewed as a learning disability, but I tend to think of it differently. I like to think of it as a trait, such as having freckles or being tall. People with ADD/ADHD have brains that are wired differently and can bring a new perspective. Although it can be brought on by environmental factors, it remains to be highly genetic, making it almost a predisposition. And while it is still labeled as a disability or illness, I refuse to tell that to my son. I have and will continue to tell him that because he has ADHD, he will have to work a little harder because his brain is different by design.
  1. There is no shame in giving your child medication. I wanted to do this completely holistically and as much as we tried, the end result would mean that my son would be left behind academically. I chose the medication to give him the opportunities he deserves to thrive.

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How have you come to terms with labels like ADHD, ADD, AUTISM, DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY, etc.?

Editor’s Note: For more information on ADHD, CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) is a national resource for those seeking more information. Your child’s pediatrician and your child’s teacher are also valuable resources if you have concerns.

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Charlee is a Tampa native and currently resides in Valrico with her two boys (ages 5 & 2), and husband, Ben. Charlee is a teacher by day, and recipe developer by mealtime. She loves being in the kitchen and propping her boys on the counter to assist as her sous chefs. She believes that involving her whole family in the process will foster healthy habits and an appreciation of where food comes from. Charlee has a food blog called Little Red Bird Kitchen where she posts recipes and the reactions of her little guys and big guy, too. Charlee enjoys reading, pinning, crafting, and finding tasty local eats. She loves glam vintage, wears Chuck Taylor Converse everyday, and rocks the bow tie. Visit her blog @ www.littleredbirdkitchen.com and follow her Instagram @CharleeChomps.

4 COMMENTS

  1. We too had to make this decision. Our sons counselor put it this way. Your son’s body is missing something that it needs to function. It’s no different than my diabetes. I take medication to compensate for what my body needs and doesn’t produce on its own. Your son is accepted by his peers now, but as he grows older, his behavior will annoy others to the point that he will be ostracized by others. You don’t want that. Take into consideration that it may take a bit to find the right med and dosage. I have three children, all with different issues. Two are medicated, one not. The one not medicated is just a preschooler and his issues can’t be helped by meds.

    I’m all for it. It made our lives much more manageable and them pleasant to be around. I do understand it’s not for everyone. Think of your child and their future success.

  2. Many of us must take medication to properly function in society, whether it be school or work, and you hit the nail on the head with your “brains that are wired differently” comment. Your precious son did not choose to ignore your commands and create the ultimate ruckus. His brain simply did not properly register your instructions, and so if a little medication can solve that problem, then go for it. You have demonstrated that you are your son’s best advocate, by researching, consulting, and determining the best course of treatment. Woohoo for YOU!!!

  3. I know this was written a few months ago but this post really connected with me. Just this month I had my 7 yr old son get on ADHD medicine. As a young mother (26 yrs old) I blamed myself and thought I was doing something wrong. At first I was nervous about having him on medication but I am so happy I did it. I did my research and talked to more than one professional which really helped. He is able to do his homework and other tasks with such grace now. It used to take him an hour to write a paragraph.

    Since my son has Medicaid I went through Sequel Care of Florida so everything was free. The people who work there are all very professional, kind and non judgmental.

    • Thank you for sharing, Nikki. So glad to see that your child has been successful with the use of medication. It’s a hard decision, but we do the best we can with what we’ve got. Thanks for commenting. (-:
      Charlee

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