Are You the “Go To” Mom?

We were out at the park a few days ago, there were a few other parents there. Three of us were sitting at one of the tables. One of the moms had a little boy, 5 months old, bundled up and super cute. She was talking about the baby and what a challenge it had been to lose sleep, how she she forgot to grab the stroller on the way out a few weeks ago, how she thought the little man had started teething, and went on to how she considered herself the “go to mom.” Her friends and family were all asking her advice on parenting and tips on being a mom. So I thought…..if she has 1 and I have 5 shouldn’t that make me some kind of mommy guru?

 (in Hinduism and Buddhism) a spiritual teacher, especially one who imparts initiation
  • Synonyms: spiritual teacher, teacher, tutor, sage, mentor, leader, master
    – an influential teacher or popular expert.

I have never really thought about it before, but when you break it down, I am a mom, a step mom, and a bonus mom. I do have 5 kids of my own, 2 step children with my husband, 1 from my ex husband and 2 that I call bonus children because they are from my ex husband and his wife after me, but they call me mom and have since they were babies.



We have had ups and downs as a family, but we are all doing well. We have been through late night feedings, teething, potty training, and of course breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, both of which I have done. We are familiar with public school and homeschool, both through the county (FLVS) and the traditional way. I was a very active member of the PTA, a football mom, and a Boy Scout mom. There have been a lot of firsts, tons of pictures, and mornings trying to get everyone out of the house on time. I have been working parent and a stay at home mom. I have been through the challenges of both. The kids have had broken bones and staples, there have been rashes and infections, a decent amount of colds and sickies. We have dealt with loss and we have had a lot of fun with life.

I need to start collecting Parenting Merit Badges. I checked…and there the are —->  Parenting Merit Badges from cooking and photography to entertainment and transportation.meritbadges


Don’t get me wrong, there are times when I question some of my parenting decisions. There are times when I think I should have done something different, but then I realize how grateful I am to have these kids. They are all good. They listen, well,  most of the time. They obviously have moments of insanity, so do I. They volunteer. They have good grades. They speak their minds and stick up for themselves. They are responsible and they are each unique. They have goals and plans for their futures. Overall they are all happy kids.motherhood


There surely is no shortage of parenting information out there. Mothers claiming how motherhood is the best, and the worst thing that has ever happened to them. You can easily Google “parenting advice” and get more than 1 million results. 1 million! On top of that, you can mention parenting and get TONS of advice and information from every direction. Mothers, fathers, the ones that are wanting children, those that have adopted, those with one 5 month old baby.cara-advice


I think about parenting and just hope that I can give my kids some guidance. I let them make their own decisions most of the time and let them deal with the consequences of them, good and bad. Raising children is not easy and there is always something to learn, even for those of us that have 5 + children.

So what does it take to make a mommy guru? What qualifications are needed to be the “go to” mom? Can you be a 20 year old parenting expert? Or should you be mid 40’s and on your way to an empty nest? How many kids should you have or how long should you be a parent before you can consider yourself an expert?Quotation-Harrison-Ford-parenting-age-job-Meetville-Quotes-8737


Bernadette is a native Florida girl, originally from Palm Beach Gardens. Currently she can be found wandering around the St. Pete and Tampa Bay areas. Bernadette is a stay at home mom to 5 awesome kids. The boys are Glenn (13), Ben (12), and Garrett (5). The girls are Tierney (10) and Emmaleigh (4). Most of her days are pretty random and usually have some form of adventure, photography and craftiness to them. You can follow along on more of her day to day on Aimless Moments, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and Facebook.


  1. Anyone with kids older than mine is who I go to for advice. You wanna believe I’m not going to the first-time mom of a 5 month old for advice. More power to her, and no disrespect at all, but she’s still in the honeymoon phase.

  2. I have s stepsons too and have tried over and over to create harmony with their Mom, but unfortunately getting along is not enough drama for her so its a struggle to raise them in our normal home when they are temibded I am NOT their mother. The oldest is 22 and sees through his Mom and we talk daily with him, but the teen is still wrapped up in her drama. We good MOms are best rewarded in time 🙂 I love all
    My boys

  3. honestly, my grandma is my guru for mom advice! She raised 7 kids so she knows all! I also ask my “older” friends advice! Those that have done it before tend to know more than I do!

  4. I’m a mom of 3 and often have family and friends, some of which I never thought in a million years would ask ME of all people for certain advice! It always brings joy to me when they feel I am a good mother and knowledgeable enough for them to come to with a question or concern. I love it!

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